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E5 · Invite and Host
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WHYZMEN · OPTIONAL CARD · SESSION 10 WHYZMEN · OPTIONAL CARD · SESSION 10
E5 Invite and Host E5 Invite and Host
Use it when… starting a friendship, or a group worth Use it when… starting a friendship, or a group worth
coming back to. coming back to.
“What! You too? I thought that no one but myself …” “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself …”
C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, on the moment a friendship is born C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, on the moment a friendship is born
Work did the hard part of friendship for you. Retirement Work did the hard part of friendship for you. Retirement
hands it back. Six steps from acquaintance to friend: hands it back. Six steps from acquaintance to friend:
1 · Widen the funnel Go where people already gather, and 1 · Widen the funnel Go where people already gather, and
choose what repeats. choose what repeats.
2 · Make a simple One man at a time: “I’m fishing Saturday. 2 · Make a simple One man at a time: “I’m fishing Saturday.
invitation Want to come?” invitation Want to come?”
3 · Ask curious “What got you into that?” 3 · Ask curious “What got you into that?”
questions questions
4 · Follow up Within two days: “Really enjoyed that. 4 · Follow up Within two days: “Really enjoyed that.
Let’s do it again.” Let’s do it again.”
5 · Create a rhythm Make the next one automatic: “Fishing 5 · Create a rhythm Make the next one automatic: “Fishing
Saturdays.” Saturdays.”
6 · Become a host Bring men together. Hosting is where 6 · Become a host Bring men together. Hosting is where
your next five comes from. your next five comes from.
E5 · Invite and Host (back) E5 · Invite and Host (back)
FROM INTEREST TO MISSION FROM INTEREST TO MISSION
RUNG WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE RUNG WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE
1 · Gather We smoke meat together. 1 · Gather We smoke meat together.
2 · Host We smoke meat, and someone brings a question. 2 · Host We smoke meat, and someone brings a question.
3 · Serve We smoke meat for a family night at Urban 3 · Serve We smoke meat for a family night at Urban
Impact. Impact.
4 · Send We teach three younger men, and they start their 4 · Send We teach three younger men, and they start their
own. own.
BEFORE YOU LAUNCH BEFORE YOU LAUNCH
Our purpose (one you could disagree with): ____ Our purpose (one you could disagree with): ____
Same day, same place: _______________________ Same day, same place: _______________________
Our host: ___________________________________ Our host: ___________________________________
Our opening question: _______________________ Our opening question: _______________________
Who I will invite in person: ________________ Who I will invite in person: ________________
THIS SKILL’S PRACTICES S10 Shoulder to shoulder · S13 THIS SKILL’S PRACTICES S10 Shoulder to shoulder · S13
Keep a small promise Keep a small promise
More in the Toolkit: 5 · Build & Host More in the Toolkit: 5 · Build & Host
Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering (2018); Peter Block, Community (2008); the Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering (2018); Peter Block, Community (2008); the
Men’s Sheds movement. Full Gathering Design Card in Building New Men’s Sheds movement. Full Gathering Design Card in Building New
Relationships After Retirement. Relationships After Retirement.
WhyzMen · Rewire Retirement · Card E5 · r1 · Optional · handed out at Session 10 WhyzMen · Rewire Retirement · Card E5 · r1 · Optional · handed out at Session 10