Cards
Guide cards
The pocket cards from the front of your notebook. Lost one? Print a new copy from its page.
How the cards work
WHYZMEN · REFERENCE Your Guide Cards What is in your front pocket, and when to reach for it |
Each card holds one skill. The nine core cards are in your pocket from Session 1, each labeled with the session it comes out. At Session 10, six optional cards join them. The card is the short version; the Communication & Relationships Toolkit in this tab is the long one. Keep the cards where you will use them: in the car, by the coffee maker, or in your jacket on triad morning.
The letters: E everyone · H at home · T in your triad · P practice · C your Charter
In your pocket from Session 1: the nine core cards
Card | Reach for it when… | Out at | More in the Toolkit |
P · Practice of the Week | One practice a day | S2 | If you want a path |
E1 · The Great Listener Card | Any conversation that matters | S4 | 1 · Listen |
H1 · The Marriage-Safe Conversation | A hard or tender talk at home | S4 | 4 · At Home |
H3 · Listening vs Fixing | She needs an ear, not a fix | S4 | 1 · Listen; 4 · At Home |
T1 · Your Triad | Every triad meeting, all year | S10 | 2 · Ask; 5 · Build & Host |
T3 · The Clearness Room | Holding one man’s question | S11 | 2 · Ask |
T4 · Stay on Your Side of the Net | Telling a brother something hard | S13 | 3 · Speak Truly |
C1 · First Steps | Carrying your Rule and first steps | S13 | — |
C2 · Tending the Charter | Life changes, or it’s review time | S15 | 6 · Take Stock |
Added at Session 10: six optional cards, offered, not assigned. Your feedback decides which ones stay.
Card | Reach for it when… | Try it at | More in the Toolkit |
E3 · Seven Questions | Helping without rescuing | S10, S11 | 2 · Ask |
E4 · The Recipe | Planning your friendship rhythms | S10 | 5 · Build; 6 · Take Stock |
E5 · Invite and Host | Starting a friendship or a group | S10 | 5 · Build & Host |
E6 · Find the Word | All you can say is “fine” | S10 | 1 · Listen; 3 · Speak Truly |
E7 · Ask Clearly | Asking, or saying no | S10 | 3 · Speak Truly |
H2 · Grandkids and Teens | Talking with the next generation | S10, S14 | 4 · At Home; 1 · Listen |
Lost a card? Ask your facilitator, or download it from the program website. Want more? The Toolkit has tools that never made it onto a card.
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