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E6 · Find the Word
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WHYZMEN · OPTIONAL CARD · SESSION 10 WHYZMEN · OPTIONAL CARD · SESSION 10
Find the Word Find the Word
Use it when… something stirs in you and all you can say Use it when… something stirs in you and all you can say
is “fine.” is “fine.”
“Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed
within me?” within me?”
Psalm 42:5 · David asking himself to name it Psalm 42:5 · David asking himself to name it
Start in the middle. Move out until the word fits. Start in the middle. Move out until the word fits.
E6 · Find the Word (back) E6 · Find the Word (back)
THE SENTENCE THE SENTENCE
I feel (one word from the wheel) about (what happened). I feel (one word from the wheel) about (what happened).
THREE MOVES THREE MOVES
• Pause. Ask “What am I feeling?” before “What do I think?” • Pause. Ask “What am I feeling?” before “What do I think?”
• Find the word. Center first, then outward. Two words are • Find the word. Center first, then outward. Two words are
allowed: “proud and sad” is an honest answer in this allowed: “proud and sad” is an honest answer in this
season. season.
• Say it plainly. “I feel that you…” is a thought, not a feeling. • Say it plainly. “I feel that you…” is a thought, not a feeling.
Stay on your side of the net. Stay on your side of the net.
WITH SOMEONE ELSE WITH SOMEONE ELSE
Offer a word; don’t assign one. “It sounds like you might be Offer a word; don’t assign one. “It sounds like you might be
worn out. Close?” If he corrects you, that is the gift. worn out. Close?” If he corrects you, that is the gift.
WATCH FOR WATCH FOR
Fine is not a feeling. Mad is often the bodyguard: look behind Fine is not a feeling. Mad is often the bodyguard: look behind
it for hurt, fear or loss. it for hurt, fear or loss.
Season words: restless · adrift · unneeded · relieved · free · Season words: restless · adrift · unneeded · relieved · free ·
torn torn
FIRST USE FIRST USE
Your next triad check-in. Answer “How are you?” with one Your next triad check-in. Answer “How are you?” with one
word from the outer ring. word from the outer ring.
THIS SKILL’S PRACTICES S4 Her day first · S6 Reflect it back THIS SKILL’S PRACTICES S4 Her day first · S6 Reflect it back
More in the Toolkit: 1 · Listen · 3 · Speak Truly & Encourage More in the Toolkit: 1 · Listen · 3 · Speak Truly & Encourage
Wheel after Gloria Willcox, “The Feeling Wheel” (1982). Lieberman et al. (2007): Wheel after Gloria Willcox, “The Feeling Wheel” (1982). Lieberman et al. (2007):
putting a feeling into words calms it. putting a feeling into words calms it.
WhyzMen · Rewire Retirement · Card E6 · r1 WhyzMen · Rewire Retirement · Card E6 · r1