A Tuesday in 2031 (Participant Page)

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A Tuesday in 2031
Session 12 · Building the Vision · Participant Page
"See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?" — Isaiah 43:19


Before you write
You are not starting a vision this morning. You are finishing one. Since October you have written
your story, named your two values, read your strengths, heard your table name your gifts,
noticed what you care about now that you did not care about at forty, and put a mission in the
top pocket of the pack. Everything on this page is already inside you. The job now is to see it.

Do not write in domains. Do not write in goals. Write a day.


The page
It is an ordinary Tuesday, five years from now. Nothing special is happening. Write it in the
present tense, as if you are living it. Let these people and things find their way in on their own:
your wife · a friend who actually knows you · someone you are helping · your body · your faith ·
something you are learning · something you do for no reason but joy.

Start with the morning. End with what you are grateful for when the light goes off.




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Which part are you already living?
Read your Tuesday to your triad, all of it, without stopping. They will ask you one question and
no other:

"Which part of this are you already living?"

Write the answer here, in one sentence. This is the most important line on the page.


The Flourishing Signs
A vision is not a wish. It is a life you would recognize if you were living it. Read the signs below.
Circle three you can already say yes to — that is the part of the destination you have reached.
Then circle one you are reaching for — that is the part your Tuesday is pointing at.

                When it is working…

 Faith          I can point to where I met Christ in my actual week, not where I intended to.

 Faith          My wife, kids and closest friends notice a difference in how I am present to them.

 Marriage       My wife sees more of me, not less.

 Marriage       I ask about her life instead of telling her mine.

 Family         My kids and grandkids get my full self, not my leftover attention.

 Friends        I have three men who actually know me — my story, my struggles, my hopes.

 Friends        One of them would come if I called at two in the morning, and I would go for him.

 Health         I have more capacity than a year ago; my body is an instrument I care for, not a problem I
                manage.

 Identity       I can finish "I am ______" without a title, a rank, or a number.

 Identity       I can say no without feeling I am disappearing.

 Service        The people I help are becoming more capable, not more dependent.

 Service        I serve because I am called, not because I should.

 Learning       I am excited about something I am learning, and it is making me better at loving people.

 Joy            I play with no outcome attached, and I am actually there when I do.


If you can say yes to three, you have found flourishing. Not perfect. Found.


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The five letters — a quiet check
Martin Seligman spent a career asking what a flourishing life contains and found five things:
Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, Accomplishment. Read your Tuesday
once more and mark the margin with the letters you find. Most men in this room will find M, A
and R. The letter that goes missing is P. If there is no joy on your page, the page is a job
description. Put the joy back in.


What I will gladly not carry
Christian, in The Pilgrim's Progress, cannot shrug his burden off by trying. It falls off at the cross
— and he gives three leaps for joy. "Let us throw off everything that hinders… and let us run."
(Hebrews 12:1)

In pencil, one line: what I will gladly set down so I can run toward this Tuesday.


One step this week
One thing from your Tuesday page you can do before we meet again — a call, a walk, a table, a
first lesson. Say it to your triad. Date it.

       "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to
       prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." —
       Jeremiah 29:11

Take this page home. It is the first draft of Charter Part Two, and it is the page your wife should
read.




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