Common Language Index

“The difference between the almost right word and the right word is really a large matter — ’tis the difference between the lightning-bug and the lightning.” — Mark Twain, letter to George Bainton (1888)

This index is the legend on the trail map. If a word is here, every facilitator says it the same way in every session. If a word is not here, it is a supporting metaphor: used once, for one job, then retired.

Term

What it means

Where

Source

A

Act I / Act II

Retired (D17). In the room, always say first half / second half. The Knapsack appendix (Charter E.2) should be re-worded to match at the next Charter revision.

S2 · S5 · App. E

WhyzMen

Advice wearing a question mark

“Have you considered…?” is advice in disguise and breaks the Clearness rule.

S11 · S12

WhyzMen

Agency · Belonging · Cause (the ABCs of Meaning)

The three places a man got meaning. A lifequake does not erase them; it reorders them.

S3 · S11

Bruce Feiler, Life Is in the Transitions

Author, The · co-author

God is the Author; the man is the co-author. God authors and a man makes real choices within the story, "in all things God works for the good of those who love him" (Rom 8:28). Matches the middle-voice teaching. Never "God, the co-author."

S5 → S6

WhyzMen; Rom 8:28

Avodah

The Hebrew word that means both work and worship. “The form of service changes. The calling does not.”

S2 · S3

Hebrew (Scripture)

B

Barnabas Turn, The

S8 Practice of the Week. When a man runs himself down: hear it, turn it over, hand it back with a question.

S8

Acts 4:36

Basecamp

Session 1: program overview, covenant and assessment. The doorway. One word, never “base camp”.

S1

WhyzMen

Below the waterline

Theory the facilitator carries but never names to the room. See Iceberg Principle.

All FGs

WhyzMen

Benediction

The closing Scripture blessing of every session. Always "Benediction" (D20); "A Sending" is retired so that "sent" is saved for S15's Commissioning.

All

WhyzMen

Big Picture, The ★

The program artwork: first summit, the valley with the Harvest Tree, second summit, Jubilee at the peak, climbers roped and carrying packs. The one map every man keeps.

S1 → all

WhyzMen

Bridge, The

The worksheet "From Mission to First Mile." The mission (unnumbered) is the near bank; planks 1–4 lead to the first mile, which is crossed together in the room. The name is reserved for this worksheet alone (D9). The S5 slide is "Into the Harvest Charter," the movement is "The Hand-off," and the verb survives only in "mourn to bridge."

S12 → S13

WhyzMen

Bridges’ transition model (Ending · Neutral Zone · New Beginning) ○

William Bridges' descriptions of each phase sit under Feiler's three phases on S3 s19 (October 16). Participant materials say "the Messy Middle," not "Neutral Zone"; Bridges' own terms appear only where the facilitator guide explains Bridges.

S1 · S3

William Bridges, Transitions

Brotherhood · brothers

The men of the cohort and, from S10, a man’s triad. “One story for your brothers.” Middle word of the program byline.

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Building · Cracking · Revealing

The container in three moves (D3). The first half builds it (also called the scaffolding, or the provisional personality); the second half breaks it open and reveals what it always held. The second half is not a new container: it has an architecture, written down in the Harvest Charter. Never "filling."

S3

After Rohr; 2 Cor 4:7

C

Callback

A slide banner that brings back an earlier session’s idea, e.g. “CALLBACK · THE KNAPSACK · FROM SESSION 1.”

S3 → S14

WhyzMen

Caring Shift, The (§1.4)

What you cared about most at forty, what you care about now, and when it changed. “Strengths give you capacity. Caring gives you direction.” Charter §1.4, not §1.5.

S8

WhyzMen (after Carstensen)

Charter Advance

In-room warm-up writing toward a Charter section.

S2

WhyzMen

Charter at a Glance

One page from every man, read by the pastors before the blessing. Due March 1 (October 16).

S14 → S15

WhyzMen

Charter Sprint

The writing push during the Wilderness Between that finishes Part One.

Interval

WhyzMen

Charter, The — Harvest Charter ★

A man's personal constitution in four parts: Foundation · Vision · Action · Legacy. Always "the Harvest Charter" (or "the Charter" after first use) — never a workbook or binder. Version 11 is current. Lower-case "triad charter" is a different thing.

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Clearness Committee

Parker Palmer’s original practice. In WhyzMen, the longer full-committee format offered on request.

S11

Parker Palmer, A Hidden Wholeness

Clearness Room

A triad practice. One man speaks his question or mission; the others ask only honest, open questions and never advise. Demonstrated at S11, run by triads in Clearness Week.

S11 → S15

WhyzMen (after Palmer)

Clearness Room Guide

The handout for running a Clearness Room in the triad. One name only — not "Triad Guide" or "Clearness Room: Triad Guide."

S11 → Clearness Week

WhyzMen

Clearness Week

The no-class week (Feb 15) when each triad runs its own Clearness Room on each man’s mission. Not “Field Week” or “T-shirt week.”

S11 → S12

WhyzMen

CliftonStrengths

Gallup's talent assessment: the Top 5 report ($24, gallup.com). Assigned at the close of S7, taken after S7, results used in S8. Gallup sorts the themes into four groups it calls domains; in the room say "Gallup's four groups," with a footnote that Gallup calls them domains (D15).

S7 → S8

Gallup (Don Clifton)

Cloudy / Clear

Self-rating for a mission draft. “Cloudy is a permitted answer.” Mark it, take it to your triad, return in ninety days.

S11

WhyzMen; Rom 8:1

Commission (rung 1)

“I have been sent to ___.” The one rung of the mission that names the Sender.

S11

After Bolles

Commission row

Row six of the Convergence Board: the gifts the body names, with an instance beside each.

S8 → S9

WhyzMen

Commissioning

S15: he speaks, his triad stands, the pastor blesses. “Blessing, not evaluation.”

S15

Acts 13:3

Compass

A compass points: it means a man's values (S7 Values Compass) and his Life Theme (§1.1c), nothing else (D11). The Rule of Life is a trellis, not a compass.

S6 · S7

WhyzMen

Compass Worksheet (§1.1c My Life Theme & Compass)

Workview and Lifeview essays read against each other and carved into a Life Theme. “The essays are the marble; §1.1c is the carving.”

S6

After Burnett & Evans

Container to Charter (the crosswalk)

The S1 slides that show each brick of the container, what retirement takes, and the Charter section that rebuilds it.

S1

WhyzMen

Container, The

Rohr's first-half structure of identity, boundaries, security and roles: built, cracked, revealed. Lives S1–S3. Two named callbacks point back to the original, cracked container: the S9 Rohr quote and the S15 bookend ("walked in carrying a container"). There is no second container; S10 says "build the architecture" and "the triad charter is the frame that holds it" (D3).

S1 – S3

Richard Rohr, Falling Upward (2011)

Contribution (rung 2)

“I do ___ for ___ so that ___.” The working sentence of the mission.

S11

WhyzMen

Contribution Hypothesis

Clause two of the S8 sentence: “…which makes me suspect I am meant to ___ for ___.” A guess to be tested. It is not the mission.

S8 → S11

WhyzMen

Convener

The man in the triad whose only job is to send the first text for the triad project.

S13

WhyzMen

Convergence Board, The

S8’s one page with six rows: Wiring · Character · Non-negotiables · Trained Hand · Direction · Commission. “A convergence test, not a summary sheet.” Row six is filled at S9.

S8 → S9

WhyzMen

Core Two

A man's two core values, his non-negotiables (§1.2). Always two, never five (D20). The two interval requirements in S9 are "the two musts," not non-negotiables.

S7

WhyzMen (after Brené Brown)

Couples Conversation

S3 homework debriefed at S4: surprises, agreements, misalignments with his wife.

S3 → S4

WhyzMen

Covenant, Our

Six starting elements the cohort enters at S1: Confidentiality · Presence over Performance · Listening before Fixing · Punctuality & Follow-Through · Honesty with Grace · Prayer for One Another. “Rules are imposed; covenants are entered.”

S1 → S15

WhyzMen (after Priya Parker)

Covenant, The Room’s

The five lines read before every Clearness Room: “We are here to listen, not to fix…”

S11

WhyzMen

Curated, not invented

WhyzMen does not paint the pictures. It picks what is true and hangs it where a man can stand in front of it.

S1

WhyzMen

D

Domain Grid

S7 pre-work: candidate values sorted across the Ten Domains, with a star for each non-negotiable.

S7

WhyzMen

Domain Why’s, Ten

One line of Why for each domain, drafted with My Next Chapter.

S8 → Interval

WhyzMen

Domains of Life — the Ten Domains ★

The ten areas where life happens, and the ten fruit on the Harvest Tree. Always "domains," never "fields." Use the full canonical names with "&" wherever a domain is named (October 16); order and names are on the last page. The three chosen at S13 are the priority domains.

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Dunbar’s layers · “your five” ○

Friendship circles of about 5 · 15 · 50 · 150. “Your five” is a man’s inner circle of men.

S10

Robin Dunbar, Friends

E

Engine · Fuel · Steering ○

S7 picture. Strengths are the engine, story is the fuel, values are the steering. Used in S7 only.

S7

WhyzMen

Equipping

The valley work that readies a man for the climb: the harvesting and replanting. “He does not climb the second summit on leftover strength.”

S1 · S3

WhyzMen

Essential Few, The

S13: choosing the few things that get your best. “Choosing the essential few is choosing your particular life.”

S13

After Greg McKeown

Essentialism · “Less, but better” · the 90% rule

“If it isn’t a clear yes, it’s a no.” Taught at S13.

S11 · S13

Greg McKeown, Essentialism

Essentialism Filter (§2.1b)

The three things your mission tells you to decline.

S11 → S13

WhyzMen (after McKeown)

Ethical Will

See Spiritual Testament. The Tier 2 expansion is Appendix K · Ethical Will, Expanded (D20).

S14

Jewish tradition (tzava’ah)

Evidence, not admiration

The witnessing rule: “I saw you ___ when ___.” One instance, attached.

S8 → S9 · S14

WhyzMen

F

Fellowship Gap, The

Session 10. Second-half friendships do not break; they thin. “A design problem, not a character problem.” This is the only approved program use of “gap.”

S10

WhyzMen

Field Report

S7 homework: share your two values with your wife or a close friend, ask “Do you see this in me?”, and bring back the answer.

S7 → S8

WhyzMen

Field Tests, Three

S11: The T-shirt · Two Doors · Three Conversations. “Go get five reactions.”

S11 → S13

WhyzMen (after Burnett & Evans)

First Fruits

The cohort dinner with wives about a month after S15. It honors what grew without pretending the orchard is finished.

S13 → S15

Leviticus 23:10

First Steps Card

The S13 card. Side A: My Essential Few. Side B: First Steps.

S13 → S14

WhyzMen

First summit ★

The career climb of the first half: success, metrics, ladder.

S1

WhyzMen

Five Gates, The

The S11 mission self-check: Recital · Why · Charge · No · Signature. Paired with the Felt Sense.

S11 → S12

WhyzMen

Five Losses, The

Identity · Structure · Relationships · Mastery · Purpose. "Name to mourn. Mourn to bridge." The fifth loss is Mastery, never Power (D4): the thing or things you got good at doing and now have no place to do. On the S1 crosswalk, Mastery is what retirement takes from lane 7, Competence & Fluid Intelligence; some of it comes back converted as wisdom.

S1 → S3 · S15

WhyzMen (after Haylett)

Five Weighing Questions

The S13 evaluation (§2.0). The fifth question: “What in my life would look no different if Christ were not in me?”

S13

WhyzMen

Flourishing Signs, The

In §2.2, the signs you would recognise if you were living it, each labelled with its canonical domain (October 16). Circle three you already live and one you are reaching for. The Charter table is the source; S12 s7 shows eight as a sample.

S12

WhyzMen

Fluid → Crystallized intelligence ○

Raw speed peaks early. Accumulated wisdom rises through life. “Design, not decline.”

S1 – S3

Arthur C. Brooks, From Strength to Strength

Focus-Man Protocol

The seven steps of one Clearness Room round: Frame · He speaks · Silence · Open questions · Mirror & affirm · He responds · Close & seal.

S11

WhyzMen (after Palmer)

Forgotten Range, My (§1.1b)

The capacities you never got paid for. “The range is the insight.”

S7 – S8

After David Epstein, Range

Four Phases of Retirement

Vacation · Loss · Trial & Error · Reinvent. "Name your phase silently." Moynes' phases overlap Feiler's three phases of the transition, with direct parallels (Loss ↔ the Long Goodbye, Trial & Error ↔ the Messy Middle, Reinvent ↔ the New Beginning).

S2 · S3

Riley Moynes (TEDx)

G

Galatians Test, The

“Would this sentence still be true, and worth ten years of my life, if Christ were not in me? Rewrite it until the answer is no.” Charter §3.1b.

S11 · S13

Galatians 2:20

Gauges (Readiness gauges)

The Retirement Readiness Assessment read as a dashboard, not a report card. “You don’t shame a fuel gauge for reading low.”

S1 → S2 · S13

WhyzMen

Generativity

The drive to care for the next generation. “The Drive Has a Name.”

S11

Erik Erikson

Gleaning

Generosity built into the harvest itself.

S13

Leviticus 19:9–10

Golden Circle (Why → How → What) ○

Sinek's idea behind WhyzMen's name: "Your What flows from your Why." One line on S11 s7 credits it — the mission is the Why put to work (October 16). Also printed in PG1 ("More on the Why").

S1 (PG) · S11

Simon Sinek, Start with Why

Great Listener Card

“Curious, not clever; present, not preparing; slow, not solving.” Part of the Listening Kit.

S10 → S12

WhyzMen

Halftime ○

Bob Buford's frame for the midlife turn. Quotes are fine; it is not taught as a frame (D16). These men are already retired, so it appears mainly as part of the curator's history. "The one thing in the box," not "Buford's box."

S1 · S11 · S13 (quotes)

Bob Buford, Halftime

Guide Cards

The pocket communication-skill cards in the front of the notebook, for home, others and triads.

Toolkit

WhyzMen

H

Harvest Tree, The ★

Soil = Faith · roots = what formed you (story, values, strengths) · trunk = who you are, your core · ten fruit = the Ten Domains · tending = the daily work (the Rule of Life is its trellis) · orchard = the brotherhood · sun = Jubilee overhead (D7). Not "the Grove," not "fields," not "branches = domains."

S1 → S15

Psalm 92:14

Harvest, The

The valley season (D8): a man harvests the first half, tends its seeds and fruit, and is equipped for the climb ("Harvest the First Half," S9). At the second summit a second harvest comes: the shared abundance of everyone's gifts. Never the name of a debrief — debriefs are "What Surfaced" or "Full-Group Debrief."

S1 · S9

WhyzMen; Gal 6:9

I

Iceberg Principle

One-eighth shows above the water: what to do. Seven-eighths sits below: why, theory and research, which the facilitators carry.

S1

WhyzMen (after Hemingway)

J

Jubilee ★

The peak of the Big Picture. Release and abundance under God’s hand: rest, giving back, forgiving debts, with provision promised before the release. Jubilee is the destination; significance is only the direction.

S1 → S15

Leviticus 25

Jubilee question, The

“What has God prepared in advance for me to do — and what must I set down to walk into it?”

S13

Ephesians 2:10

K

Kitchen Table Conversation

S4 homework: twenty minutes with your wife on rhythms for the next season — protect, release, build together.

S4 → S5

WhyzMen

Knapsack, The — the pack ★

What a man carries into the second half, chosen by weight (the plane crash at 8,000 feet). Always "the Knapsack" (the pack), never "backpack" (D1). Values ride in the top pocket from Basecamp; the One Thing joins them at S11. The conversions pocket at the bottom holds Wisdom · Both/And · Rope Team · Legacy; the rope hangs outside. "A pack is measured not by what it holds but by what it makes you leave." Callbacks S3, S5, S7, S8, S9, S11, S14; culmination S13; audit in Charter Appendix E.

S1 → S14 · App. E

WhyzMen; Heb 12:1

L

Life Map

S5: your life drawn as a landscape with chapter titles, “peaks and valleys, not a straight line.”

S5 → S6

WhyzMen

Lifequake ○

A life-altering disruption. It names the event; Moynes names the stages. The Messy Middle may also be described as a lifequake or a liminal space (D5).

S3

Bruce Feiler

Listening before fixing

Covenant line and the one rule of every triad. “Do you want help, or just to be heard?”

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Listening Kit

From S10: Great Listener Card, Listening vs Fixing, the Month 1 question and the first-meeting run sheet.

S10

WhyzMen

Long Goodbye · Messy Middle · New Beginning ○

Feiler's three phases of a life transition, taught on S3 s19 with Bridges' descriptions under each (October 16). Moynes' four phases overlap them.

S3

Bruce Feiler, Life Is in the Transitions; after William Bridges

M

Marriage Shared Vision worksheet

The S4 worksheet a couple completes together. Its result can be added to Charter Appendix C under Marriage & Family. Not a Charter section of its own.

S4 → S5

WhyzMen

Meaning Audit

A hundred points spread across Agency · Belonging · Cause to find the largest shortfall.

S3 · S11

WhyzMen (after Feiler)

Messy Middle, The ★

Session 3's name for how the valley feels as it is lived, and the middle of Feiler's three phases (the Long Goodbye · the Messy Middle · the New Beginning). Normal, necessary, experimental. May be explained as a liminal space or a lifequake (D5). Participant materials never say "Neutral Zone."

S3

Feiler’s term, adopted

Middle voice ○

Greek grammar used as a teaching device: the actor and the acted-upon at once. A man co-authors his story and is being authored.

S5

Greek grammar

Mission — Personal Mission Statement (§2.1)

Three rungs: Commission · Contribution · T-shirt. Drafted at S11, heard in Clearness Week, checked at S12, final at S13.

S11 → S13

WhyzMen

Monthly Question Arc

The triad’s year of questions, climbing from easy to deep.

S10

WhyzMen (after Shasta Nelson)

My Next Chapter

The interval draft of direction, seeded by the Contribution Hypothesis and joined by the Ten Domain Why’s.

Interval → S11

WhyzMen

N

Named by the Body

S9: men at the table name each other’s gifts with evidence. “The common good gets a vote.”

S9

1 Corinthians 12:7

Naming the Gift

S8 homework. Eleven gift words and an evidence rule: “No instance, no claim.” There is no inventory to take.

S8 → S9

WhyzMen; Rom 12, 1 Pet 4

Navigating Transition · Building Brotherhood · Igniting Jubilee

The program byline: middle dots, no terminal period. Confirmed October 16, 2026 — the "-ing" form everywhere. Not "Navigate · Build · Ignite" and not "Celebrating Jubilee."

All

WhyzMen

North Star

The facilitator-guide line on what a man must feel, discover or decide before he leaves the room.

All FGs

WhyzMen

Odyssey Plan ○

Three alternative five-year lives. A mention only, offered as "if you want to stretch your imagination" — it is not taught (D16).

S3 · S2 (PW)

Burnett & Evans, Designing Your Life

O

One level deeper

S12 Practice of the Week: take a conversation one step past the usual. Credit Bradford & Robin (D16), not Arthur Aron.

S12

David Bradford & Carole Robin, Connect

One Thing, The

The single thing that goes into the top pocket at S11, beside the values already there.

S11 → S13

After Bob Buford

Opportunity Map

Sorts the places men can serve by who they serve. Your “for” blank picks the row; your T-shirt verbs pick the column.

S11 → S13

WhyzMen

Orphan Value

A non-negotiable you have no reliable way of delivering: “a gap in practice, not a gap in character.”

S8 → S13

WhyzMen

P

Pack Test, The

Subtract · Select · Shoulder, then four questions for anything that wants a place in the pack.

S13

WhyzMen

Particularity

“The ultimate is only accessible in the particular” — this sunset, this conversation, God here now. A thread that runs through the program.

S2 → S15

After Burnett & Evans; Ps 46:10

Parts One–Four (Foundation · Vision · Action · Legacy)

The four parts of the Charter (D18). Who am I? Where am I going? How will I get there? What outlasts me? Not "Direction," "Strategy" or "Plan."

S1 → S15

Charter v11

Pastoral Review & Blessing

The pastor reads the Charter for three things only: Ground · Rhythm · Open hand.

S15

WhyzMen

Polarities ○

S4: tensions a couple keeps rebalancing for life. “Not battles to win.”

S4

Barry Johnson, Polarity Management

Practice of the Week

One small relational practice each week, on a card with a tracker. “Ten seconds a day. One story for your brothers.” “This is your Rule of Life at work.”

S2 → S15

WhyzMen

Priority domains

The three domains that “ride heavy” this season. The other seven ride light.

S13 (§3.1)

WhyzMen

Provisional → True

The provisional self of the first half gives way to the true self: role to essence, building to discovering.

S1 → S15

After Hollis and Palmer

R

Re-entry, not recap

The opening principle: men talk before they are taught.

S3 → S15

WhyzMen

Read My Story

S6: reading §1.1 aloud in threes for the turns and the thread.

S6

WhyzMen

Reader's Companion

The online reference layer for optional depth (D20). Use this name until the website is running; not "Digital Companion," "the website" or "reference layer."

S2 → S15

WhyzMen

Readings: Required · Going Deeper

Two reading tiers. “Required first. Going Deeper only if it calls to you.” One spelling: Going Deeper.

All

WhyzMen

Redemption / Contamination ○

“The story that frees” vs “the story that binds.”

S6

Dan McAdams

Retirement Readiness Assessment

A self-inventory, not a test. It produces the gauges.

S1 → S2 · S13

WhyzMen

Rewire Retirement

The name of the program. WhyzMen is the name of the group.

All

WhyzMen

Rope, The ★

The triad, full stop (D2). "Nobody climbs unroped." A cord of three strands. The triad's purpose cell is "Our Purpose," not "anchor rope."

S1 named · S10 formed · S13 Rope Up

Ecclesiastes 4:12

Rule of Life

A trellis, not a cage (D11, D12): a statement of chosen identity lived out in four rhythms (daily · weekly · monthly · seasonal), each with a cue and a two-minute version. Each line reads "Since I am ___, I intend to ___" — e.g. "Since I am a loving grandfather, I will talk with each grandchild one to one every two weeks." One name only; "your Rule" after first use. Introduced S4 → built S13 (§3.1c) → tended S14.

S4 → S13 (§3.1c) → S14

Benedict’s regula; Macchia

S

Satellite Sessions

As-needed sessions on practicalities and Charter-writing workshops. Home of domains 9 and 10.

S1

WhyzMen

Scaffolding · provisional personality

Other names for the first-half structure (D3): useful while the building went up, not meant to stay. Point back to the container; do not make a new one.

S1 – S3 · S10

WhyzMen (after Rohr, Hollis)

Save the seed

“Legacy is not the fruit you eat. It is the seed you hand forward.”

S14

WhyzMen; Ps 78:4–6

Second summit ★

The second-half climb toward significance, meaning and legacy: a different mountain, climbed for different reasons. The climb is the journey; the second summit is the place (D6). Say "second mountain" only when quoting David Brooks. Never "third mountain."

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Seven Open Whys

Purpose · Calling · Identity · Faith · Brotherhood · Legacy · Presence. Pick one Why to test.

S1 → S3

WhyzMen

Shed · Experiment · Write

The three moves that cross the Messy Middle.

S3

WhyzMen (after Feiler)

Signature, The

Clause one of the S8 sentence: “At my best, I am the man who ___.” The capstone of §1.3.

S8

WhyzMen

Signed and witnessed

S15: “Your brothers are not signing that your Charter is correct. They are signing that they watched you write it.”

S15

WhyzMen; Ruth 4:11

Skills Harvest from the First Mountain

The S8 block that gathers the trained hand of the first half. Kept as named; "mountain" here stands for the first half's climb.

S8

WhyzMen

Small, cheap, reversible

The standard for any experiment. “A prototype, not a resolution.”

S2 → S13

After Burnett & Evans

Spiritual Testament

The ethical will written as a Christian, in six movements. It sits in §4.1 and grows in Appendix K.

S14

WhyzMen (after the ethical will)

Step Out

Move 8 of S13, the closing movement that sends the men toward the first mile.

S13

WhyzMen

Subtraction · subtraction neglect (§3.0)

Under load we add and fail to consider removing. §3.0 is “My Subtractions.”

S1 named · S13 taught

Leidy Klotz, Subtract

T

T-shirt, The (rung 3)

Three or four verbs you can say from memory, under pressure. Compression comes last.

S11 → S13

WhyzMen

Tending the Charter

The light rhythm after S15. Amended, never erased: date the change and leave the old line visible.

S15

WhyzMen

Three Good Things

Tell one person a good thing from today, and how it came about.

S9 · Interval

Martin Seligman

Three Markers

Peak Moment · Valley Moment · Turning Point (not "The Turn"). The three scenes that shaped who you became, and the raw material for §1.1.

S2 → S7

After McAdams (“nuclear episodes”)

Threshold, My (§1.0)

Four lines: what I am setting down · carrying forward · what still deserves mourning · what I am asking Christ to carry.

S1 → S3 · S9

WhyzMen

Trained Hand, The

Row four of the Convergence Board: the three verbs you would keep doing if no one ever paid you again.

S8

WhyzMen

Trellis

The image for the Rule of Life: “It doesn’t restrict growth; it gives it something to climb.”

S4 · S13 · S14

From regula

Triad ★

Three men (four allowed, two not), formed at S10. It is the rope (D2). Before S10, say "threes" or "your table"; two-man pair exercises are fine (October 16). S2's "Your Rope Team" looks ahead to the triads. Not small group, not trios. The triad keeps a "check-in schedule"; "rhythm" belongs to the Rule.

S10 → S15

WhyzMen; Eccl 4:12

Triad charter

Six decisions that make a triad work: People · Rhythm · Activity · Progression · Purpose · Commitment. Write it lower-case so it is not confused with the Charter.

S10

WhyzMen

Triad Project

One outing of about three hours, done together, chosen from the spring menu.

S13 → S15

WhyzMen

Tuesday in 2031, A (§2.2)

One page, in the present tense, about an ordinary Tuesday five years out. “Do not write in domains. Write a day.” It is the Tier 1 vision.

S12 → S13

WhyzMen

Two Summits ★

What the Big Picture shows: two halves, two summits, one map.

S1

WhyzMen

Two things finished beats seven started

The homework principle.

S4 → S6

WhyzMen

Two-Hour Clearing, The

Two hours a week taken off the calendar now, as the first entry in §3.0.

S8

WhyzMen

U

Unfinished Shelf, The

The fourteen Tier 2 appendices of the Charter, A–N as titled in Charter v11, presented as five books. "Nothing on this shelf is assigned."

S14 → S15

WhyzMen

V

Valley, The ★

The place between the summits, where a man regroups, decides what to carry, plants, harvests and is equipped. "Where the work happens." A man's personal low point is always a valley moment, never "his valley" (D5). Never "chasm" or "crossing."

S1 → S15

WhyzMen

Values Compass, The

S7: narrowing a list of candidate values to two core values that point true north.

S7

WhyzMen

VIA Character Strengths

Twenty-four character strengths under six virtues. Values say where; strengths say how.

S6 → S8

Peterson & Seligman

W

What Surfaced

The name for an in-room debrief (D8), S5 and S6. S7's is the "Full-Group Debrief." Debriefs are never called "the Harvest."

S5 · S6 · S7

WhyzMen

Where. Who. Never Why.

The rule for witness questions. “Why makes a man defend; Where and Who make him locate.”

S8 → S9

WhyzMen

WhyzMen

The name of the group: WhyzMen sounds like Wise Men. Rewire Retirement is the name of the program.

All

WhyzMen

Wilderness Between, The

The three-week interval after S10 (Jan 19 – Feb 7): Rest & Gratitude · First Triad Meeting · Direction. It names the calendar interval only, never a place on the map (D5).

Interval

WhyzMen

Wisdom Orbit, The

Why at the center, with What · How · Test · When · Where · Who orbiting it. Wisdom is all of it, integrated and shared.

S1

WhyzMen

Wise Men Still Seek, Knowing Their Why’s

The group byline, with no terminal period. Not “Wise Men Seek” and not “Whys.”

All

WhyzMen

Witness

Tier 2 program word with one meaning (D10): the man who says back what he saw (evidence, not admiration) and never fixes. The sentence is "What I heard you say was ___." S14 and S15 deliberately use "What I heard you value was ___" for letters and testaments. S3's author slides are "Two Voices, One Passage," not witnesses.

S5 → S15

WhyzMen

Working the Harvest

Four motions: Choose the Fruit · Know Your Tools · Do the Daily Work · Gather the Fruit.

S2 · S8

WhyzMen

Don’t say

Say instead

Status

Men Engaging Retirement · MER

WhyzMen · Rewire Retirement

Settled

“Session 1: Falling Upward”

Session 1: Basecamp

Settled

Navigate Transition · Build Brotherhood · Ignite Jubilee; Celebrating Jubilee

Navigating Transition · Building Brotherhood · Igniting Jubilee

Settled (Oct 16)

Wise Men Seek (without “Still”); Whys

Wise Men Still Seek, Knowing Their Why’s

Settled

fields; the Ten Fields

domains; the Ten Domains

Settled

filling (the container)

revealing

Settled

workbook / binder (for the Charter)

the Charter

Settled

chasm · crossing · the gap (for the valley); Neutral Zone (in participant materials)

the valley · the Messy Middle

Settled

second mountain (in our own voice) · third mountain

second summit (say “second mountain” only when quoting Brooks)

Settled

significance (as the destination)

Jubilee (significance is the direction)

Settled

small group · accountability group · trios (for the triad); "triad" before S10

triad (from S10); threes or your table (before S10); pairs are fine for two-man exercises

Settled

Stage 1 / Stage 2

S1 – S15

Settled

Enneagram

— removed from the program

Settled

Power (as the fifth loss)

Mastery

Settled (D4)

backpack

the Knapsack (the pack)

Settled (D1)

his valley (for a personal low point)

a valley moment

Settled (D5)

Field Week · T-shirt week · clearness style

Clearness Week · Clearness Room

Settled (D13)

anchor rope (for the triad’s purpose)

Our Purpose (the rope is the triad)

Settled (D2)

“Not a Cage. A Compass.” (for the Rule)

“Not a Cage. A Trellis.”

Settled (D11)

The Harvest · Full Group Harvest (for a debrief)

What Surfaced · Full-Group Debrief

Settled (D8)

Charter Bridge · “The Bridge” (as a movement name)

Into the Harvest Charter · The Hand-off · "Transition:" (FG label)

Settled (D9)

Weekly Rhythms & Habits (Appendix F)

My Rule of Life (Appendix L)

Settled (D12)

Spiritual Gifts Inventory

Naming the Gift

Settled (S8 FG)

A Sending (closing slide)

Benediction (keep “sent” for S15’s Commissioning)

Settled (D20)

tonight

this morning

Settled (Monday 9:00 AM cohort)

Act I / Act II

first half / second half

Settled (D17)

Digital Companion · the website · reference layer

Reader's Companion

Settled (D20)

Direction · Strategy · Plan (as Charter parts)

Foundation · Vision · Action · Legacy

Settled (D18)

God, the co-author

God is the Author; the man is the co-author

Settled (D19)

Two Witnesses · Witness 1 / 2 (S3 authors)

Two Voices, One Passage

Settled (D10)

a new / second container (S10)

build the architecture · the frame that holds it

Settled (D3)

The Turn

Turning Point

Settled (D20)

Find Your Circle

Finding Your Circle

Settled (D20)

Go Deeper · Read Deeper · ReadDeeper

Going Deeper

Settled (D20)

five core values, ranked

two core values

Settled (D20)

the four domains (Gallup)

Gallup's four groups

Settled (D15)

Buford's box

the one thing in the box

Settled (D14)

the Grove · branches = domains

the orchard · ten fruit = the Ten Domains

Settled (D7)

two non-negotiables (the S9 interval requirements)

the two musts

Settled

rhythm (for the triad's meetings)

check-in schedule

Settled

The Marriage It Lands In

The Marriage Retirement Lands In

Settled (Oct 16)

Sending (S13 Move 8)

Step Out

Settled (Oct 16)

plank 0 · planks 0–4 · plank 5

the mission (unnumbered) · planks 1–4 · the first mile

Settled (Oct 16)

Triad Guide · Clearness Room: Triad Guide

Clearness Room Guide

Settled (Oct 16)

Marriage & Shared Vision section (of the Charter)

Marriage Shared Vision worksheet → Appendix C

Settled (Oct 16)

short domain names (Faith, Recreation, Friends, Joy…)

the full canonical names with "&"

Settled (Oct 16)

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Session title

Subtitle / note

S1

Basecamp

Program Overview, Covenant & Assessment

S2

Who Am I?

S3

The Messy Middle

Transition

S4

The Marriage Retirement Lands In

Settled October 16 (deck file renamed to match)

S5

Me, the Co-Author & Protagonist of My Story

The Journey So Far (“of,” not “in”)

S6

Read My Story

Redemption & Continuity

S7

The Values Compass

Who Am I at My Best?

S8

The Strengths Portrait

What Am I Wired to Do?

S9

The Ground Beneath Me & Harvest the First Half

"Harvest the First Half" names the valley season (D8)

S10

The Fellowship Gap & Finding Your Circle

“Finding,” not “Find”

Interval

The Wilderness Between

Three weeks; the Charter Sprint

S11

Mission & the One Thing

followed by Clearness Week

S12

Building the Vision

A Tuesday in 2031

S13

The Essential Few & First Steps

S14

Legacy & Letters

The letter you write and the letter you are

S15

Commissioning & Send-Off

Witnessed, blessed, and sent

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Domain

Where it is written

1

Faith & Spiritual Life

Vision · App. C

2

Marriage & Family

Vision · App. C

3

Friendships & Community

Vision · App. C

4

Health & Wellbeing

Vision · App. C

5

Identity & Purpose

Vision · App. C

6

Service & Contribution

Vision · App. C

7

Growth & Learning

Vision · App. C

8

Recreation, Adventure & Joy

Vision · App. C

9

Finances & Stewardship

Plan · §2.2b · App. N

10

Practical Readiness

Plan · §2.2b · App. N

Part

Sections

Part One — Foundation

1.0 Threshold · 1.1 My Story · 1.1b Forgotten Range · 1.1c Life Theme & Compass · 1.2 Core Values · 1.3 Strengths & Gifts · 1.4 Caring Shift · 1.5 Faith Foundation · 1.6 Discipleship Rhythm

Part Two — Vision

My Next Chapter · 2.0 Evaluation · 2.1 Mission · 2.1b Essentialism Filter · 2.2 A Tuesday in 2031 · 2.2b Stewardship & Readiness · 2.3 Legacy Statement

Part Three — Action

3.0 Subtractions · 3.1 Goals & Action Plans · 3.1b Galatians 2:20 Check · 3.1c Rule of Life · 3.2 The Mechanics (v12: retitle "My Rule of Life — The Mechanics," D12) · 3.3 Accountability · 3.4 Learning Curriculum

Part Four — Legacy

4.1 Legacy Snapshot (story · letter · spiritual testament)

Appendices (Tier 2)

Fourteen, A–N, as titled in v11: A Life Lessons I Have Learned · B Expanded Range Excavation · C Expanded Domain Visions · D Complete Goals & Action Plans · E Expanded Subtractions Audit: The Knapsack · F Weekly Rhythms & Habits · G Personal Board of Directors · H Resources & Support Map · I Additional Stories for Grandchildren · J Letters to Those I Love · K My Ethical Will: A Spiritual Testament · L My Rule of Life · M Spiritual Autobiography & Discipleship Lineage · N Domains 9 & 10 in Full. (F folds into L is planned for v12, D12.)